1.  Assess the situation. Before you do anything, take a few minutes to collect your thoughts. Write down your notes if possible.

  • What is the noise and how bad is it?
  • Is the noise a one-time or occasional problem, or is it frequent?
  • How is the noise affecting you?
  • How would you like the problem resolved? What specific actions do you want taken?

2. Talk to your neighbor. Your neighbor may not be aware of the problem or of how much it is bothering you.

  • Be courteous and polite. Explain the situation factually. One way to approach the problem gently is to ask why they are being so loud.
  • Mention specifically what outcome or result you would like.
  • Ask them if they are celebrating something and when is it estimated to get over.
  • Suggest an alternative or compromise. Could they use headphones? Could they keep it down after or before certain times of day?
  • Let them know how you are being affected. You may be studying, you may be having younger kids or elderly relatives at home who are getting affected with like headaches etc.
  • Make them understand your side of the issue and try to work things out cordially if they cooperate.
  • Keep your safety in mind. If you are at all concerned about your safety or you do not know your neighbors, take a friend or neighbor along. Walk away if you feel at all threatened.
  • Don't bother banging on a shared wall or hollering back. Even if it is heard, it may not communicate what you intend, and it may disturb others. Go knock on the door, instead.
  • Do not blame or accuse, and definitely do not threaten your neighbor. If you are confrontational toward them, they are far more likely to respond by being confrontational toward you. Remember that you're seeking a solution, not a hostile standoff.